An Instant Message to My BFF from my heart.

Here is an instant message convo that I was sending to my BFF. She has been going through a lot lately and is having a hard time. She has a lot of decisions to make and has to think about her 4 kids as well. I feel sorry for her relationship situations and how it ends up affecting the kids but, she has to stay strong . Most men do not appreciate having a good, hard working, loyal woman by their side. I have always believed that a man is not a man if he can't stand on his own two feet and needs a woman to survive. A man has to be a man and no one else can do it for him.


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MsLovely101: Well I would never want to say anything to hurt your feelings but I have to be honest. I think you are a wonderful person and a great mother to those kids and the kind of woman any man would love to have as his own. HE is a fool and the sad part is that he wont realize it until it is too late and there are no new words to be said. And what I mean by no new words to be said is ......sometimes you talk so much and that person is not really listening and you are saying everything that needs to be said and giving all the warnings.....but no one is listening/remembering/caring. then its like you just run out of things to say. You run out of ENERGY from argueing with this person all the time. ANYWAY I just hope that you can make the right decisions for YOU and YOUR KIDS, because ya'll come......

MsLovely101: ........first and not "HIM". "HE" is a man and should be standing on his own two feet. YOU ARE Not letting him be a MAN !!! He is not working sometimes and YOU ALWAYS GIVE HIM MONEY !! That is a NO NO!! you know this girl.....You are too smart to be taken for a fool...or at least that how I see you. You are being too nice towards him and he runs over you like you are his BITCH. Is that what you are settling for???? After you gave birth to his kids...the joy of his life.....HELL NO- - - YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!

MsLovely101: I am giving it to you 100%real and I hope you can respect that. I love you like my sister and if ANYTHING happened to you I would play some HOT GRIT BALL up in SETH LOW.

MsLovely101: These men try to intimidate you with their BIGNESS in SIZE but we are smarter than they are .

MsLovely101: You would be surprised how afraid a man can really get when you put your mind to it and start taking action and let him see that you are NOT THE BITCH TO FUCK WITH.

MsLovely101: You have to let him be a MAN and stand on his own2Feet....LEt him buy you stuff you want. Save your money. Let me buy yall weed and SAVE YOUR MONEY. LET him pay !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I could never be with a man who is broke and needs all of my money...HELL NO. TO me HE IS NOT A REAL MAN !

MsLovely101: Does it ever occur to you that that is why you may not be attracted to him? BEcause he is not the way he used to be...he is not really independant, not really appreciateive, and not understanding sometimes.

MsLovely101: I know Im writing an essay to you but there is a lot that I feel about this and I am tired of seeing you hurt when you are such a hard worker and a great homemaker....YOU DESERVE MORE.......YOU DESERVE BETTER.......please tell yourself these words!! please......

MsLovely101: I would tell him..."I want more and I deserve more. I want better. "

MsLovely101: I expect more from "him" . I think that he is seriously falling on a downwards slope that he needs to stop right now and get his game right.

MsLovely101: "Girl" ....you are my bff and I dont want to see you get played. Play him dont let him play you, because he is playing you like a card.....playing you like a PIMP. Sorry to say. ONLY PIMPS live off of WOMEN and take womens money.

MsLovely101: Anyway, I just had to get this bit of honesty across to you and hope you hear me. I would never tell you anything wrong and I love you and I will always be here to help you BFF. Kepp your head up and dont stress about short-term bullshit....A low of good things are coming you way, just be wise and be patient.